Unapologetically Weird With Tobare!

  What I thought was femininity  Femininity is not as simple as it seems. It is a concept that has evolved over time and differs from one culture to another. But in general, we can say that being feminine means being female and behaving in a way that society considers appropriate for females at that particular moment in time. Along with this society bombards women with an overwhelming amount of Beauty Demands. I never really had a first hand experience on femininity. My mother was a working class mother in Lagos, trying to raise three children while her husband was abroad. So you can imagine what time she had for herself. Needless to say my mother was never caught " un-fresh ". She always made sure she had her hair done, shaved her legs, restock on her earrings, her body creams (all anti-aging) and the usual "Shirley" for any unwanted blemishes. My sister and I would act plays in her wigs and head wraps and clutches.  If there's anything I ever looked forward to

I want friendship not feelings!!!  For basically all my life I’ve been running towards the females and away from the males. No! This is not a coming out story! Rather this is one about my ever evolving friendship journey.

Why you should rethink selflove There are so many definitions for what selflove means, this one rang true to me by the BBR-foundation; “Selflove is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our  physical ,  psychological  and  spiritual growth”. -           Physical :   Your physical wellbeing, a lot more people have been more aware of their bodies and health. I have never seen as many young people in my life time, especially here in Nigeria, almost become obsessed with exercise, dieting etc. Motives aside, it was never really our culture to exercise and take care of our bodies. Going to the gym or working out seemed to be a luxury for the rich. Regardless of the financial struggles people go jogging and hiking, at least here in the capital, to achieve better bodies and health.  -           Psychological : Mental Health  is another buzzword; people are becoming more and more aware of mental stress and its impacts on our life all around. We are understandi